Repair your relationship.
Evidence-based interventions for happier relationships (of all kinds).
Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.
Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live with.
-James Baldwin, in conversation with Nikki Giovanni
One widespread misconception about love is that we need to be healed and fulfilled to deserve it, that we need to “love ourselves before anyone else can”. Actually, relationships are not the end point of a healing journey, they are the most important place of healing.
Most of our wounds were caused in early relationships: emotional neglect, misunderstanding, loneliness, abuse - naturally, we show up in our current relationships with these very wounds open. Our current relationships (romantic or otherwise) are places we arrive to play out our childhood relationships, this time, often with the hope that things play out differently. Unfortunately, we often find ourselves stuck in the same patterns and dynamics: feeling the same old wounds reopened, trying to change ourselves, another person and the relationship. This is where Couples Therapy comes in. My practice is based on evidence-based interventions and the most valued modalities. I help you understand your pattern, see how each person is complicit, and help move you from a place of confusion or contempt to one of compassion and alignment. I encourage this work for relationships of all kinds: romantic, friendship, house-mates, family and all relationships that exist in between or outside of these categories. I also work with Conscious Uncoupling (here too, for all relationships that may have run their course and deserve much grace and respect in being parted with).
Relationships are hard. Really hard. Reach out.
Approach.
I work first and foremost with my practice’s foundational values: liberation, warmth, and radical openness. I have trained in the Gottman’s Method, a highly valued Couples Therapy modality based on decades of research on real couples. I am currently getting certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an approach that helps people understand and express emotions, identify dynamics to create secure bonds, and teaches how to engage openly, warmly and compassionately with one another.
I have always felt a deep passion for relationships: I love love. I have fostered this passion in the past decade by listening to every podcast on the topic, and reading whatever books I could find. This more informal training has, and continues to, be a valuable part of my experience.
As with all my work, my approach does not discriminate (and rather encourages) diverse and alternative relationship practices - all those in relation to one another, of all kinds, are welcome.
There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul. —Arnold Bennett